It is easy to get caught up in having a good day or bad day. We measure everything in a duality scale, especially our mood and how we feel, good vs. bad, up vs. down. There is nothing wrong with the scale; duality is an important part of our physical experience. But we can change the unit of measurement that we use, from day to moments, from hours to moments, from minutes to instances. Then once you place the moment when you found the right parking space as you pulled in the parking lot, when someone opened the door for you with a smile when your hands were full, when you went to a crowded store and managed to walk to the register at the right time to be the first in line, when your kid comes to your room with a smile and gives you a big hug, when you received the perfect job opportunity, when you needed cash and you found a $20 in your pocket, when you saw a rainbow after a big storm, when you gave someone a hug and they thanked you because they really needed it ... vs. the moment when someone cut you off on the road, when you woke up with a headache, when you spilled coffee on your shirt on your way to a meeting, when your kid comes to your room with a temperature, when the heater breaks on a cold winter day. When you fill the scale with moments then you see that in a day there are so many little moments that were magical, that fill you with joy and love, that put a smile on your face and make you feel good inside. And I am sure if your fill the scale with moments, then scale will be tipped in favor of the "good". With love and gratitude Atousa :)
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I always see myself as someone that has no problem sharing my life, the good and pretty side as well as the ugly side. However based on a recent conversation I wondered if I share the ugly side on my social media. After reviewing my social media it seems that I do share only the good moments. I share sunrises, sunsets, and many pictures of nature; I share pictures of great moments with friends; and yes most of my personal feed is full of pictures of my son when he is having a great time. There are no pictures showing that I came from a divorced family at age 2 and the bitterness of the divorce was present and active until my teenage years, no pictures of countless moves, and no pictures of my emotionally abusive father, no pictures of my marriage to an abusive narcissist, no pictures of my son dealing with his many emotions and meltdowns when he comes from visits from Dad that takes us almost a week to settle down, no pictures of me in my complicated relationship with it’s many ups and downs, no pictures of me putting aside family members because I was not willing to carry the loads of crap that was put on me and stay quiet because it was family. So why not the pictures of ugly parts? Frankly because its so much harder to capture those moments, feelings and emotions, just like it is so much harder to fully capture the storm and much easier to capture the sunshine after the storm. But I do share every detail of the "ugly" parts with my friends, clients, and anyone that I believe can use my experiences as examples to see that they are not alone and that they can overcome and to know their own power. So next time if you are looking at my pretty social media feed know that there has been many cuts and bruises behind those moments and I am truly grateful and blessed for all of it both the pretty and the ugly moments. One of my favorite Rumi quotes is "The wound is the place where the Light enters you,” and it is so true. If it was not for all the cuts and bruises I would not be the powerful healer that I am today.