So I am a big time hugger ... I love receiving hugs as well as giving hugs; I even put xoxo in most of my emails, text, posts, etc. The other day I noticed that something so seemingly simple takes up so much thought process. You ask WHY? Well I noticed that in my interactions with people, in person or online, I often hesitate from giving hugs because I wonder if it is appropriate, is the other person going to read to much into it, or is it going to be just taken as an exchange of pure love. To give you an example a Middle Eastern male that I have never met posted a wonderful comment on one of my art postings on Facebook; and I make the distinction between Middle Eastern Men and others since it seems I have a "belief" that they tend to read to much more into a hug than other males. So when responding to his comment I ended it with a xoxo, but before posting it, at first I removed the xoxo thinking that it might seem inappropriate; after several seconds of going back and forth I just put ooo.
Just a very simple example of how our mind and beliefs keep us from doing things that really make us feel good and happy, because of our prejudices, judgements, habits, etc. In this hug situation I used to put the focus on the other people rather than on myself and what truly would make me happy. Needless to say I put xoxo whenever I want to and I give hugs to strangers. I am like this guy in the video below, that probably if most of you saw would think he is a freak :) Moral of the story, do what makes you happy, share the love, let go of beliefs that don't serve you, and stop the mind chatter. And if you see me with a sign "Free Hugs" come and give me a BIG HUG. In the meantime Keep on Watching, Living, Loving, and most important of all Enjoying.
Today I had an interesting experience while I was running. I am getting ready for my second half marathon. It was such a beautiful day today and I decided to go for a long run; a quarter marathon. After the initial start it was so interesting to see a conflict between my mental state and physical state. Physically my body was saying "no problem, we got this, piece of cake, we can either keep the same time as last time or maybe even beat it" but then mentally my mind was saying "are you out of your mind, you can barely make this run, we cant' do it, we are tired, lets just walk, there is no way you are ready, ..." And then there is ME just running. When I would get my mind busy on something other than running and then watch my running, it would seem as if I could run even a marathon at a fantastic pace. When I would allow the mind to start its chatter about running, then it would seem that I was tired and could not breath. Needless to say that I did have a fantastic run, and actually the last mile I had my fastest time (8'13" min/mile). Moral of the story, the mind will trick you, put fear in your, make you doubt, .... but you can have some fun with it by just watching it like a tantruming child; it is best not to engage with it. And just like the tantruming child it is going to get tired of kicking and screaming at some point, slowly it will quite down, and the tantrums will be less sever each time. In the meantime Keep on Watching, Living, Loving, and most important of all Enjoying.
Artist thoughts on life, love, happiness and spirituality.