Its three days past the elections. I started 11/9/2016 with a post on my Facebook page about how my heart sank as I heard the news of who was supposed to be my president and how I was going to break the news to my soon to be 9 years old son; specially since I have always tried to teach him not to be a bully, to respect women, to respect others, not to lie or cheat, etc. etc. But now he gets to see a person that is a bully, racist, disrespects everyone, lies and cheats become the president of one of the largest nations on earth! I decided to sit with my feelings and my girls (I think this is a good time to mention that inside my head its much like the cartoon Inside Out). I had a chance to see why people may have voted for Trump and also wonder about the big picture. And a big thank you to a 16 years old young man, Amir Kalantary, for putting it all into perspective more clearly with his Facebook Post to show how much we (the non-republican camp) have been sore losers, to consider the reasoning of the people that voted for soon to be president Trump and the mistakes of the Democratic party overlooking the voice of the larger population asking for change. I looked back at my own life and how that there was also so much good that came out of each horrible time/tragedy in my life and that those bad times is what was needed for me to get closer to and receive my wishes.
So let us be real, open and honest with ourselves and with each other. At some point in our lifetime each and every one of us (yes including me) has been a bully, a victim, liar, cheat, racist, and made fun of some other culture/community/nationality. Just think back how many times you may have told even a white lie; or said a joke that was making fun of a group; or the times you influenced someone by playing to their weaknesses in order to get what you wanted (definition of bully). I know you are all reading this and thinking there is no way that you have ever been a bully or racist. But when you consider that a bully is by definition someone that knows another persons hot buttons (what makes them tick, scared, angry, sad) and uses them to manipulate the person. Every time you have used guilt or fear to manipulate a situation or someone you have been a bully, so this alone covers Catholics, Muslims, Jewish communities (even if you are not religious but grew up in those communities), parents and most kids. Every time you have made a joke making fun of a certain group of people you have been a racist; my Iranian brothers and sisters hands up on this one. Every time you were behind a car that is going slow and getting close to the lanes and you made a comment that it must be a female or Asian or both, yes you are being a racist. So now you are all saying, come on that is taking things a bit too far and yes you are probably right. But the point is that society is OK and good with a certain level of bullying, racism, and lying as long is a white lie, the joke is funny and its a White Color bullying. Or better yet as long as its not in your face lie, racism or bullying.
peace and healing to our world. And the way to unite, love, heal, and peace starts with each and every single one of us to first recognize, accept, and to love without judgment but with compassion our own different personas; because its then and only then that we can truly see the others with loving, accepting, compassionate eyes and step into their shoes and realities. One side does not have to be wrong for the other one to be right and vice versa. We are all different sides of the same coin; we all share common fears, worries, sadness, concerns and judgments; and we all want better lives for ourselves and our families. It is not about right or wrong, good or bad; by accepting and showing compassion you are not saying it is OK to bully, be racist, lie and cheat. By accepting and showing compassion and love you are shining your light bright and becoming a full size mirror for the other to see themselves so that they can see, accept their parts and so that they no longer react from a place of fear, anger, judgment and guilt.
We have let the media and our pasts run our lives and the present moment. We have allowed the media to bully us using our fears and judgments. So lets get started with cooling our hot buttons so that they can no longer be used against us and we can stand naked, fully showing all parts of ourselves even the parts we wish no one would see, look in the mirror and love what we see. And use that same loving compassionate eye when you are looking at others specially the opposition and those whom we feel have wronged us.
I see this time as a time of hope, clarity, love, compassion, standing up fully present, stepping away from negativity and drama, away from those that want to use our fears and judgments against us. Let us be the light and mirrors for each other so that we can brighten the path to peace and unity. It is only with light that darkness can vanish. But even darkness serves a purpose; it is so that we can find the light inside and light the way for ourselves and others.
We are all creation in progress, life in progress. Light the candle inside; make it stronger; make it shine brighter and brighter; be a compass for others to find their way out of the darkness. Love, Light and Peace. Atousa :)
Artist thoughts on life, love, happiness and spirituality.